Once parental authority is broken trust issues never really get solved. Once a family is broken, it can take generations for the family to heal. I thought about how damaged some families are and I had to ask others what they thought. So, I went to a parenting group and asked the people there what they think about families being ripped apart, addiction, and trust. I received several answers from a diverse group of parents and family members. Some are foster and adoptive parents while others are biological parents.

People don’t want to adopt “drug babies”.

“People don’t want to adopt drug babies”, one foster parent said. “They cry a lot and have developmental problems. Cps will give the drug addicts a lot of chances to get their kids back cause no one else can get paid enough to take them. The healthy drug-free baby is one that is hard to get back and these nurses and doctors are actively seeking them to steal”.

Do addicted babies make a “full recovery”?

“Drug addict babies can make a full recovery. The key is to get them to bond to a caregiver immediately”, another foster-approved disagreed. I had to jump in at that point to say that I don’t know if the children ever “fully recover”, they may learn to cope, but they never fully recover.

Bonding with the caregiver instead of Mom.

How do you recover from losing your family over drugs? The foster mother came back saying, “They did a study in Ohio back in 2015. I am sure there is always residual underlying issues but generally speaking the newborn can recover. This issue is when you take a baby, put them in with a foster family, wait 2 years and then reunite them with their mom( who at that time would be more of a stranger). The idea for these babies is to have 1 strong caregiver. Not bouncing back and forth because mom can’t recover”.

“This issue is when you take a baby, put them in with a foster family, wait 2 years and then reunite them with their mom( who at that time would be more of a stranger). The idea for these babies is to have 1 strong caregiver. Not bouncing back and forth because mom can’t recover”.

So here we go. My concern is that once the family hierarchy is destroyed, what happens next. Foster care, jails, a not-so-bright future? The discussion turned to more of a religious conversation after the foster determined that it is God’s will for her to convince everyone that God’s will is for church members to take addict’s children into foster care. We will have to do another story on that one. In the meantime, I want to hear from you. What do you think?

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