When anxiety threatens to take over our daily lives, what can we do?

Pray…The Lord’s Prayer works well…it’s okay to emphasize the forgiveness part. We have to forgive our enemies and those that do us wrong so that the devils can’t get in the door to fill our hearts and minds with hate and anger. Give it to God and He will have His vengeance. It is also okay to emphasize the “deliver us from Evil” part because God does promise to do that when we put him first and keep our eyes on Him. Just turn to prayer and have faith that God is in control. Relax. Turn to your Bible and read.

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The Lord’s Prayer

Lord’s Prayer

Matthew 6:5-15 KJV

Matthew Chapter 6

5 And when thou prayest, thou shalt not be as the hypocrites are: for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward.

6 But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly.

7 But when ye pray, use not vain repetitions, as the heathen do: for they think that they shall be heard for their much speaking.

8 Be not ye therefore like unto them: for your Father knoweth what things ye have need of, before ye ask him.

9 After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.

10 Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.

11 Give us this day our daily bread.

12 And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.

13 And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.

14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:

15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

Rebloggin TAO’s The Art of Dismissing the Adoptee’s Voice….by rebloggin the “forbidden family”….


For those people who want to shut us down, tell adoptees how to feel and what to think and how to behave, please, please listen to what adotped people say. Validate our feelings, our experiences.

We don’t have to “be grateful.”

We’re not “angry and bitter” when we speak our truths.

Perhaps you could read this post frm another adopted person’s point of view:https://theadoptedones.wordpress.com/2015/08/05/the-art-of-dismissing-the-adoptees-voice-2/#more-13220

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Brett Blomme, Milwaukee’s juvenile judge pleads guilty to child porn charges

Milwaukee County judge arrested, accused of possessing child pornography
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The Associated Press reports that Brett Blomme, Milwaukee, Wisconsin’s juvenile judge pled guilty to two counts of distributing child pornography. He looking at possibly facing five years and will be sentenced in December.

Milwaukee is the #2 hotspot of human trafficking in the entire world so these charges are especially concerning because Brett Blomme had power over America’s most vulnerable children that passed through his courtroom. Those that are interested can check out a 2016 report, “A Crime in Plain Sight” and other City Reports from Milwaukee to find out just how bad the problem really is.

Between October and November, the Department of Justice found that Blomme had uploaded child pornography through the Kik messaging application 27 times. He faces 7 counts of possession of child porn but will likely reach a “federal plea deal to resolve all state and federal charges for “any known criminal conduct”.

Blomme, a liberal challenger was elected to Milwaukee’s juvenile court in 2020 after defeating former Republican Gov. Scott Walker’s appointee, conservative Circuit Judge Paul Dedinsky. He said, “I am the progressive alternative”. Shortly after he won the election special agents from Wisconsin’s Division of Criminal Investigation determined that he was using the name “dommasterbb” to upload videos and images containing child pornography.

DCI requested a warrant saying that 27 videos and images of children being sexually abused were uploaded and that at least two files were uploaded to a Milwaukee County government building. A Milwaukee County reserve judge signed the search warrant.

Blomme grew up on a farm in Missouri and is openly gay. He is married to Christopher Verhaeghe, an assistant director of the orientation at the University of Wisconsin, Madison. Brett Blomme is a graduate of Marquette University. Milwaukee Mayor Tom Barrett, and director of the Cream City Foundation appointed Brett Blomme to head the City of Milwaukee’s zoning appeals board. Blomme was the Major Giving Director at the Wisconsin AIDS Resource Center and is an LGBTQ activist. He also worked for the State Public Defender’s Office from 2011 to 2015.

The Department of Justice, the Milwaukee County District Attorney’s Office, and other agencies including police departments in Wauwatosa, Cottage Grove, and Brookfield, the Racine County Sheriff’s Office, the Waukesha County Sheriff’s Department, and the Minnesota Office of Criminal Learning conducted the investigations.

UK police officer arrested, raped, and killed Sarah Everard after finishing his shift at the US embassy.

Protests outside the court criticised London's Metropolitan Police (AFP/Tolga Akmen)
Protests outside the court criticised London’s Metropolitan Police (AFP/Tolga Akmen)

A British police officer pretended to arrest a woman for violating covid restriction rules, kidnapped a woman that was “just walking home” from a friend’s house, then raped and killed her. Wayne Couzens, with the elite diplomatic protection unit of London’s Metropolitan Police, admitted kidnapping, raping, and killing Sarah Everard in July. Her strangled remains were found a week later in a wooded area.

Tom Little, the prosecutor says, ”Security camera footage showed Couzens targeted the 33-year-old marketing executive on March 3, after finishing a shift at the US embassy. Couzens, who was off-duty, but wearing his police belt, kidnapped Everard in a “false arrest”, by “handcuffing her and showing his warrant card”. Witnesses said they assumed an undercover police officer was making an arrest.

Sarah’s mother Susan said her daughter “lost her life because Couzens wanted to satisfy his perverted desires. It is a ridiculous reason. I am outraged that he masqueraded as a policeman in order to get what he wanted”.

Sarah’s father Jeremy, asked his daughter’s killer to look at him and then stated, ” No punishment that you receive will ever compare to the pain and torture that you have inflicted on us.”

Metropolitan Police felt betrayed and said they were “sickened, angered and devastated by this man’s crimes, which betray everything we stand for”.

Protestors set off smoke flares and held banners that said, “Met Police Blood On Your Hands”.

W.H.O. & U.N. exposed in the Congo sex abuse Ebola crisis scandal

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International aid agencies have been battling Ebola…Inkz

“Victims were promised jobs in exchange for sexual relations or in order to keep their jobs…29 of the more than 80 women became pregnant and some were forced abort their babies.”, said commission member Malick Coulibaly.

Jolianne, a 14 year old girl, said she “was selling phone recharge cards on the side of the road when a WHO driver offered her a ride home. Instead he took her to a hotel where she says he raped her. She later gave birth to his child”.

The Thomson Reuters Foundation and The New Humanitarian found that supervisors at the W.H.O. and the U.N. forced women to have sex in order to keep their jobs during the Ebola crisis in the Democratic Republic of Congo. Over 50 women accused aid workers from the WHO and other charities of demanding sex. Some women lost their jobs because they refused sex with their supervisors.

Both national and international staff  are accused of nine allegations of rape. 21 of 83 perpetrators were employed by the WHO and have been banned from future WHO employment. Four contractors have been terminated.

“Tedros Adhanom Ghebreyesus who will be seeking a second term at the United Nations health body, said the report made “harrowing reading” and apologized to the victims. What happened to you should never happen to anyone. It is inexcusable. It is my top priority to ensure that the perpetrators are not excused but are held to account,” he said, promising further steps.”

Too few lawmakers address foster youth aging out or the failed foster care system. Let’s fix it.

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A woman sits at the steps of the BC Legislature as hundreds of people, many youth who have aged out of foster care, rallied to ask for better support for youth aging out of care. (Arnold Lim/Black Press)

Someone sent information this morning that said “Youth speak out on ‘aging out’ of foster care; requesting extension on age limit”

Lane Ball out of Huntington Beach, West Virginia is developing a story with Nexstar about how foster care facilities push for the “aging out” limit to be extended. We hope that somewhere in the development that he realizes there is a financial incentive to keep children in state custody, and most importantly, we hope that Lane Ball reports how badly the foster care system is failing our most vulnerable youth. If Lane doesn’t “get it” and report it, you can bet that we will.

Young adults that age out of foster care often do not have familial ties to their own biological families. Sometimes it is because the family was so bad that the child could not be safe around any of them, but for the most part, about 90% of the time, the state severs a child’s ties with biological family members out of “respect” for the foster placement’s wishes.

It is most of the time too difficult for foster “parents” with very little training to integrate the new family with the biological family. The result is that children age out of foster care very often not knowing who they are or where they came from.

What makes it even worse for them is that throughout their lives in foster homes, they are about 80% of the time prescribed psychotropic drugs “to help them cope”. Once they age out, they no longer have access to their medicines.

Many will turn to street drugs and about 75% of the aged-out youth will end up in jail or prison within 2 years of aging out. It is reported that at least 1 in 7 foster children will fall into the hands of human sex traffickers. I think the number is higher because social workers are not required to report missing foster children. There are no amber alerts for them, and city reports show that between 60% to as high as 99% of children rescued in sex trafficking stings were in state custody before they were trafficked. Even the Department of State admits that the U.S. foster care system is a problem.

Less than 3% of foster children ever go to college and less than 2% will ever graduate. Foster placements simply fail to teach the vulnerable youth how to make it in this world and by the time they turn 18 and hit the road, they are ill prepared for what life throws at them.

Lane’s report today shows that lawmakers are taking notice. He says, “When someone ages out of foster care, it can be difficult adjusting to life as an adult. This past year, the federal government offered a safety net for individuals not quite ready to be on their own, but that will soon no longer be the case”.

“Supporting Foster Youth and Families Through the Pandemic Act”  created specifically to aid foster children during the Covid pandemic expires on September 30, 2021. Apparently, the Annie E. Casey Foundation is pushing for legislation that will support foster youth between the ages of 18 to 27-years-old.

Some CASA advocates as well as US Senators Sherrod Brown from Ohio, and  Shelly Moore Capito from West Virginia are taking notice and working on legislation that will provide support for foster youth that are aging out.

West Virginia Senator Shelley Moore Capito stated, “Throughout my time representing West Virginians in Congress, I’ve consistently worked to deliver needed resources and support to our state’s foster children, and help improve West Virginia’s foster care system as a whole. As legislation is introduced, I’ll prioritize the well-being of those in foster care, regardless of their age, who were particularly hard hit by the pandemic”.

Senator Brown from Ohio said, “It’s critical that Congress act now and extend the moratorium on ‘aging out’ of foster care. Now more than ever – as we continue to recover from the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic. We cannot afford to cut young Ohioans off from critical housing and support services. Every young person deserves a safe and stable place to call home”.

Other senators from other states do not seem to be concerned about foster youth until they realize that there is something in it for them, and there is now about $100 Billion ASFA 1997 dollars and the Trillions of dollars put out into communities through the American Rescue Plan, The Family First Act, the American Family Plan, and countless other Acts that have been made to increase access to quality healthcare and services. Hopefully lawmakers will get on the ball and help desperate, vulnerable foster youth that have no ties to family that can support them.

As Lane Ball develops his story, I hope he does he research well and reports the facts about how badly the state has failed our most vulnerable children that are now becoming young adults and being set free in this messed up world. Our prayers go out to them that God will clear the path and work with everyone’s Hearts and Minds to make each foster youth a successful member of society, hopefully by beginning before they age out not knowing what to do. We pray for people that care to make a powerful difference in their lives each and every day so that they can become the people that God created them to be.

I offer two solutions; (1) place children will family or someone that they already know and trusts so that their lives are not disrupted any more than it has to be, and (2) localize foster care so that youth do not end up in strange places with strange people far from where they no their way around. This will prevent children from being trafficked and provide more stability.

If you want to offer any solutions, please do so in the comment section. Thanks for reading. We look forward to hearing from you.  

Alaska state worker arrested on child pornography charges one day after adopting 4 kids

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A malware alert on a company computer led IT to report an Eagle River man with four adopted foster children to the FBI. Now he is facing child pornography charges. Agents arrested John Daniel Brooks, 51.

State records show Brooks is an analyst-programmer for the Department of Environmental Conservation, and a registered foster parent with whom the state Office of Children’s Services had placed four children, ages 1 to 13.

Brooks and his wife had officially adopted the children just one day earlier. Casey Grove, from Alaska Public Media in Anchorage says, “Agents searched Brooks’ home and devices and found hundreds of digital images of child pornography hidden in various computer folders, and when they asked him, Brooks said he was sexually attracted to children. He admitted that he had agreed to become an assistant with one of his daughter’s scouting group, in part because of his attraction to children, according to the charges”.

Brooks has worked for the Department of Environmental Conservation since 2010, and he was placed on unpaid leave this week, so taxpayers are still paying him. The U.S. Attorney’s Office is asking anyone with further information about Brooks’ activities to call the FBI at (907) 276-4441.

Defense, denial, and rationalization addicts use that slow the recovery process, and what family and friends can do to help.

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Denial and rationalization are two common defense mechanisms that addicts can use that can slow or prevent recovery. Denial is common among addicts. Denial happens when a person fails to accept or acknowledge a reality. Sometimes the truth hurts, and emotions can be difficult to deal with. Addicts can also be manipulative, and this comes from the addict’s ability to rationalize their behavior to themselves and to convince others that there is not a problem.

Everyone uses defense mechanisms to protect themselves from anxiety and in social settings to cope with what is happening around them. Defense mechanisms are usually healthy ways that people have to deal with whatever is happening but become pathological when maladaptive behaviors emerge from the unconscious mind to manipulate or deny reality. Addicts use defense mechanisms to rationalize their addiction and to protect their own ego.

Addicts deny that they have a problem. They deny that they are addicted or that an addiction is the cause of any negative consequences. Often times an addict will blame others for problems and therefore shift the focus off of themselves and the addiction so that someone else or something else is to blame. This is also the way that an addict compartmentalizes their addiction because morally the addict most likely does not want to be an addict or behave like an addict. Extreme denial can lead to dissociative disorders where the addict becomes detached from reality all together and can no longer cope.

Rationalization is the addict’s way of justifying their behavior both to themselves and to other people around them. Addicts can use logic manipulatively to avoid the issues of their addiction. They can even convince their friends and family that nothing is wrong and sometimes even have their friends and family rationalize their behavior for them. Projection and acting out are other defense mechanisms, but they also stem from the addicts ability to deny that they have a problem and shift the blame on to others therefore creating the rationalization that nothing is wrong with them and that someone or something else is to blame.

Defense mechanisms become an addict’s reality and recovery becomes further out of reach. Denial is a major roadblock to recovery and the main reason that addicts do not seek help. Nobody wants to admit that they are wrong or that they have a problem and lots of people do not like asking for help even when they know that they have a problem. A person will have a hard time accepting the fact that an addiction has taken control of their life and that can prevent treatment all together.

Family and friends may even deny that someone is addicted and say that the person has a reason for acting the way they do, that something bad is to blame. The sad thing about that is that the addict has to admit that they have a problem and take responsibility for their life. And sometimes, family and friends may know that their loved one is addicted but the more they push the addict to get help, the more the addict becomes further withdrawn from the people that could be positive influences in their life.

Common behaviors may include acting out, accusing loved ones of be judgmental and condemning, playing the victim, or manipulating the situation and blaming others, and minimizing harm caused by the addiction.

Depression and other mood disorders may also surface further complicating things for both the addict and the people around them. The addict may seem like they just don’t care. The addict may truly believe that they are the only one affected by the addiction and not realize the negative effects the addiction is having on their family.

Denial is just the start of complications to treatment. As the addict denies that they have a problem and places the blame on other things or other people, family and friends may also question their own beliefs about the addiction. Everyone starts to rationalize the addict’s behavior and make excuses. Reality becomes distorted and an addict may withdraw themselves from anyone that disagrees with them and become isolated, or they could just decide to hang around with other people that share their addiction. Afterall, those people are more understanding and less judgmental. The best thing that family and friends can do is admit that there is an addiction and to be understanding rather than judgmental.

How we approach intervention is important. It is possible to push a person further away and further into a crowd of people that share their addiction. This can result in death and other horrible outcomes. Strategies that are proven to be effective are motivational techniques that involve both the addict and their family and support group. Showing an addict how their addiction is affecting the people they care about can sometimes motivate them to change their life and their behaviors. Nobody wants to hurt the person they care about. It is also important to show the family how their action may be enabling the addiction or pushing the addict further away from accepting help. Counseling centers have experts that can help guide a family to accept that their loved one is addicted and teach family and friends to listen and understand the addict so that they can help them recover.

One of the best resources for family and caregivers is the National Alliance of Mental Health (NAMI) and a motivational tool they published several years ago for family members dealing with schizophrenia, “I am not sick, I don’t need help”. Although the booklet is written for people dealing with a family member that suffers schizophrenia, the techniques used to help them want help are also useful to help an addict accept help and it is a useful tool to teach family members and friends how they can help someone they care about who is suffering from addiction or some other disorder.

If someone you know is looking for free resources.

SAMSHA National Helpline 1-800-662-4357

US Substance Abuse and Mental Health Administration

Louisiana State Police Officer Indicted on Federal Civil Rights Charge for Assaulting Arrestee

Jacob Brown, 31, a former trooper with the Louisiana State Police, was indicted by a federal grand jury in Shreveport, Louisiana, for using excessive force against an arrestee.

Louisiana State Police Trooper Jacob Brown
Louisiana State Police Trooper Jacob Brown OUACHITA PARISH SHERIFF’S OFFICE VIA AP
Brown’s indictment comes as the federal prosecutors on the case are scrutinizing other troopers who punched, stunned and dragged another Black motorist, Ronald Greene, before he died in their custody on a rural roadside. The probe of Greene’s 2019 death has grown to examine whether police brass obstructed justice to protect the troopers who beat the Black motorist after a high-speed chase.

The indictment charges Brown with a single count of deprivation of rights under color of law.

An arrestee known as A.B. says that he was “repeatedly struck in the head” bThe modified flashlight with a metal tactical cap that is designed for breaking glass is considered a deadly weopon.

Jacob Brown faces a maximum sentence of 10 years in prison, three years of supervised release and a fine of up to $250,000.  The FBI, Assistant U.S. Attorney Luke Walker for the Western District of Louisiana, and Trial Attorney Katherine G. DeVar of the Civil Rights Division are prosecuting the case. Investigations are ongoing. (Civil Rights Division, Civil Rights – Criminal Section, Press Release Number: 21-919)

Yes! Class action status against Wade Correctional Center in Claiborne Parish, Louisiana means advocates can move forward.

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The federal lawsuit claiming abuse at Wade Correctional Center in Claiborne Parish, Louisiana prison alleges harsh treatment and isolation of the mentally ill and has been granted class action status.

Until taxpayers decide that enough is enough, they will just have to keep paying for the damage done through the misconduct of those in charge. State officials of course denied the lawsuit’s allegations when it was filed and do not want to respond now either. That too, of course caused prolonged suffering that taxpayers will just have to keep paying for until it decides that enough is enough and puts the bad actors out!

Jeremy Alford from LA Politics reported…..Finally, a federal judge granted class-action status on Monday to a lawsuit involving several inmates at Wade Correctional Center in Claiborne Parish. The inmates allege that the mentally ill in the prison were not treated humanely in recent years. Based on reporting from the Associated Press, “U.S. District Judge Elizabeth Foote’s decision means the criminal justice advocates who filed the lawsuit in 2018 can potentially seek relief for hundreds of prisoners. … Exactly how many is unclear but the ruling by the Shreveport judge says there were 366 people being held at the buildings in question in March 2020.”